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The Invisible Girl: The True Story of an Unheard Voice
From Torey Hayden, the number one Sunday Times bestselling author of One Child comes The Invisible Girl, a deeply moving true account of a young teen with a troubling obsession and an extraordinary educational psychologist's sympathy and determination to help.
Eloise is a vibrant and charming young teen with a deeply caring nature, but she also struggles with a worrying delusion. She’s been moved from home to home, and her social workers have difficulty dealing with her habit of running away. After experiencing violence, neglect and sexual abuse from people she should have been able to trust, Eloise has developed complex behavioural needs. She struggles to separate fact from fiction, leading to confusion for the social workers trying to help her.
After Torey learns of Eloise's background she hopes that some gentle care and attention can help Eloise gain some sense of security in her life. Can Torey and the other social workers provide the loving attention that has so far been missing in Eloise's life, or will she run away from them too?
Eloise is a vibrant and charming young teen with a deeply caring nature, but she also struggles with a worrying delusion. She’s been moved from home to home, and her social workers have difficulty dealing with her habit of running away. After experiencing violence, neglect and sexual abuse from people she should have been able to trust, Eloise has developed complex behavioural needs. She struggles to separate fact from fiction, leading to confusion for the social workers trying to help her.
After Torey learns of Eloise's background she hopes that some gentle care and attention can help Eloise gain some sense of security in her life. Can Torey and the other social workers provide the loving attention that has so far been missing in Eloise's life, or will she run away from them too?
205 pages, Kindle Edition
First published January 1, 2021
About the author
Torey L. Hayden
57 books1,479 followersVictoria Lynn Hayden, known as Torey L. Hayden (born May 21, 1951 in Livingston, Montana) is a child psychologist, special education teacher, university lecturer and writer of non-fiction books based on her real-life experiences with teaching and counselling children with special needs.
Subjects covered in her books include autism, Tourette syndrome, sexual abuse, fetal alcohol syndrome, and elective mutism (now called selective mutism), her specialty.
Hayden attended high school in Billings, Montana and graduated in 1969. She then attended Whitman College in Walla Walla, Washington.
A little time after having written her most famous book One Child, Hayden moved to Wales in 1980 and got married to a Scot called Ken two years later. In 1985, she gave birth to her daughter Sheena. Hayden is now divorced.
She has also written three books of fiction in addition to her non-fiction books.
Subjects covered in her books include autism, Tourette syndrome, sexual abuse, fetal alcohol syndrome, and elective mutism (now called selective mutism), her specialty.
Hayden attended high school in Billings, Montana and graduated in 1969. She then attended Whitman College in Walla Walla, Washington.
A little time after having written her most famous book One Child, Hayden moved to Wales in 1980 and got married to a Scot called Ken two years later. In 1985, she gave birth to her daughter Sheena. Hayden is now divorced.
She has also written three books of fiction in addition to her non-fiction books.
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August 10, 2021
I’ve been a fan of Torey Hayden’s books since she began writing. Having studied and worked as a child psychologist, I’ve often cringed at her lack of boundaries and questionable judgment, but I still enjoy reading her.
Red flags should have been flying in Hayden’s face when Eloise showed up on her doorstep after a casual mention from a social worker, particularly after Hayden learned Eloise had a history of stalking a teen foster sister. This should have been a warning to use the strongest boundaries with the young teen, but Hayden decides to bring Eloise as an “assistant” to a job working with intellectually disabled five to seven years old despite Eloise saying she didn’t like children. Hayden’s idea was to have informal therapy during the car rides. Eloise seems like a below average, yet adequate assistant until she’s accused of biting a nonverbal child and pinching other kids at times when she was alone with them. After an informal investigation to see whether Eloise sexually abused the children, which she didn’t, Torey muses that the investigation was overblown. Hello????????????? Any hands on kids, whether “only” pinching or biting by a volunteer is wrong. It’s assault. The victim was nonverbal and severely delayed and she had admitted to pinching other kids but said the child big herself, despite not having a history of self harm. Hayden seems to have missed the entire point of her discretion.
Hayden is a wonderful storyteller. She explains complex psychological concepts in simple terms for readers who don’t understand the disorders without sounding textbook. She oozes empathy and often has good analytical skills. Eloise benefitted from her relationship with Hayden and THE INVISIBLE GIRL is a heartfelt story.
Red flags should have been flying in Hayden’s face when Eloise showed up on her doorstep after a casual mention from a social worker, particularly after Hayden learned Eloise had a history of stalking a teen foster sister. This should have been a warning to use the strongest boundaries with the young teen, but Hayden decides to bring Eloise as an “assistant” to a job working with intellectually disabled five to seven years old despite Eloise saying she didn’t like children. Hayden’s idea was to have informal therapy during the car rides. Eloise seems like a below average, yet adequate assistant until she’s accused of biting a nonverbal child and pinching other kids at times when she was alone with them. After an informal investigation to see whether Eloise sexually abused the children, which she didn’t, Torey muses that the investigation was overblown. Hello????????????? Any hands on kids, whether “only” pinching or biting by a volunteer is wrong. It’s assault. The victim was nonverbal and severely delayed and she had admitted to pinching other kids but said the child big herself, despite not having a history of self harm. Hayden seems to have missed the entire point of her discretion.
Hayden is a wonderful storyteller. She explains complex psychological concepts in simple terms for readers who don’t understand the disorders without sounding textbook. She oozes empathy and often has good analytical skills. Eloise benefitted from her relationship with Hayden and THE INVISIBLE GIRL is a heartfelt story.
August 19, 2021
I've liked Torey Hayden's books since I was a kid. I'm delighted that she's writing again, after taking a break for a few decades.
Most of Torey's memoirs take place in special education classrooms in the US, but this one covers a timeline after she moved to Wales and was doing volunteer counseling. As Torey was working with a group of 6-8 year old special needs kids, teenager Eloise turned up and asked for her help. Eloise was familiar with her books and had tracked her down after another counselor had mentioned that Torey might be able to help her. Things had gone wrong with Eloise's foster family and Eloise wanted Torey's help to get back in their good graces. But Eloise's problems, of course, ran deeper than anticipated.
I found this story inspiring, although I missed the camaraderie of the classrooms in her previous books. It's worth reading if you're already a fan, but I would suggest starting with her earlier books if you're not already familiar with her work.
And I just have to say...'Elin', if by chance you ever happen to read this review: thank goodness for people like you. The world needs more of you.
Most of Torey's memoirs take place in special education classrooms in the US, but this one covers a timeline after she moved to Wales and was doing volunteer counseling. As Torey was working with a group of 6-8 year old special needs kids, teenager Eloise turned up and asked for her help. Eloise was familiar with her books and had tracked her down after another counselor had mentioned that Torey might be able to help her. Things had gone wrong with Eloise's foster family and Eloise wanted Torey's help to get back in their good graces. But Eloise's problems, of course, ran deeper than anticipated.
I found this story inspiring, although I missed the camaraderie of the classrooms in her previous books. It's worth reading if you're already a fan, but I would suggest starting with her earlier books if you're not already familiar with her work.
And I just have to say...'Elin', if by chance you ever happen to read this review: thank goodness for people like you. The world needs more of you.
October 28, 2021
Read it in one sitting
Always move me. Always make me cry. Hit home hard in my heart as I am “the child”. Relate too closely to so many of the feelings and stories especially this one. I had an inside mum who always there for me, loved me unconditionally and imparted her wisdom ever so lovingly to me. She appeared after watching the mum Olivia on The Waltons. Hence why Olivia being used in this story struck a deep chord, and the shame of sharing, the self hate, confusion, fearful of disclosure and transferring the feelings onto a real person who not always a willing participant. Thanks for writing stories that help some of us feel not so alone.
Always move me. Always make me cry. Hit home hard in my heart as I am “the child”. Relate too closely to so many of the feelings and stories especially this one. I had an inside mum who always there for me, loved me unconditionally and imparted her wisdom ever so lovingly to me. She appeared after watching the mum Olivia on The Waltons. Hence why Olivia being used in this story struck a deep chord, and the shame of sharing, the self hate, confusion, fearful of disclosure and transferring the feelings onto a real person who not always a willing participant. Thanks for writing stories that help some of us feel not so alone.
December 11, 2021
Not her best
Although it's a good story, I didn't feel the magic was captured quite as much as in Toreys other books.
Although it's a good story, I didn't feel the magic was captured quite as much as in Toreys other books.
January 28, 2023
I read my first Torey Hayden book when I was 15, and it is because of her that I became a Social Worker. I wanted to do what she did. Granted, she isn't a social worker, but close enough, and I basically do what she does. I'm in my 40s now and have always held her close to my heart, because there is just a special place there for the woman who introduced me to a career that has brought me so much challenge and fulfillment. Over the years I have met her and even have an autographed copy of One Child. It's one of the things I would save in a fire :) But, seriously, these books are truly Torey. They capture her and her heart so well. I found her to be as amazing in real life as she is on the pages of her books.
Reading her books always brings me to a place of instant comfort somehow, even though she talks about some very disturbing things. When you work in this field, you get used to disturbing things, sadly. But Torey just has this simple way of handling each story, each child, and each crisis with grace, patience, and humor, and it's just so soothing for me to read.
I have to laugh at the finger painting with pudding scene and the kids squealing how it looks like poop. Funniest thing ever because this is exactly what happens when you sit down with a group of kids and try to do something resembling counseling with them! Somehow Torey just has this amazing way of describing the chaotic joy of working with children! It's funny and impulsive and wild and is never boring. That just shines through in her books.
If you want a career in the helping professions, pick up any one of her books, and you won't be able to put it down. Guaranteed.
Thank you, Torey, for all you do. You've shaped my life in so many ways. I would read your grocery list if you wrote that up, so keep writing please :)
Reading her books always brings me to a place of instant comfort somehow, even though she talks about some very disturbing things. When you work in this field, you get used to disturbing things, sadly. But Torey just has this simple way of handling each story, each child, and each crisis with grace, patience, and humor, and it's just so soothing for me to read.
I have to laugh at the finger painting with pudding scene and the kids squealing how it looks like poop. Funniest thing ever because this is exactly what happens when you sit down with a group of kids and try to do something resembling counseling with them! Somehow Torey just has this amazing way of describing the chaotic joy of working with children! It's funny and impulsive and wild and is never boring. That just shines through in her books.
If you want a career in the helping professions, pick up any one of her books, and you won't be able to put it down. Guaranteed.
Thank you, Torey, for all you do. You've shaped my life in so many ways. I would read your grocery list if you wrote that up, so keep writing please :)
August 9, 2021
I first learned of Torey Hayden when her book SOMEBODY ELSE'S KIDS appeared in condensed form in the January 1981 issue of THE READER'S DIGEST; I stilll have a copy. I am a vocational rehabilitation counselor; so the work I do is quite different from hers. Still, the books she has written about her work resonate with me in a very powerful way. She does not shy away from writing about times when she isn't sure what to do next, about situations that confound her, about trying things that simply don't work. She captures the complexity and, ultimately, the power of the human spirit. She portrays all of the people with whom she works with incredible dignity and they are certainly fortunate to have her as their therapist and/or teacher.
I just finished this very powerful book and it is as good as I hoped it would be which, given my expectations for Hayden books, is high praise indeed. I realize that this review is quite generic; all I can say is that if you have any interest at all in counseling, therapy, or, more broadly, in the journey we all take as we try to live our lives, you owe it to yourself to read this and her other books.
I just finished this very powerful book and it is as good as I hoped it would be which, given my expectations for Hayden books, is high praise indeed. I realize that this review is quite generic; all I can say is that if you have any interest at all in counseling, therapy, or, more broadly, in the journey we all take as we try to live our lives, you owe it to yourself to read this and her other books.
July 24, 2022
Great Story for educators working with kids with specific learning needs
Thank You Today for writing another book about your work. They are very inspiring. Your books make me want to be a better SAI teacher for students with specific learning and emotional needs. Your books are insightful and hard to put down. If you are into learning about another's profession and whom they impacted this is the book for you .
Thank You Today for writing another book about your work. They are very inspiring. Your books make me want to be a better SAI teacher for students with specific learning and emotional needs. Your books are insightful and hard to put down. If you are into learning about another's profession and whom they impacted this is the book for you .
September 19, 2022
Torey Hayden stole my heart with her books collection this book 📖📚 really got me amazing storie 💜 brilliant 📖📚💜☕🧸
March 22, 2023
Ho conosciuto l'autrice quando ancora ero giovane. Ha fatto nascere in me l'amore per il lavoro che poi sono andata a fare. Per me la Hayden è ispiratrice ♥️
November 3, 2022
Jälleen kerran taattua Haydenia ❤️
Koskettava ja ajatuksia herättävä tarina.
Koskettava ja ajatuksia herättävä tarina.
September 4, 2023
Questo è l'ultimo libro che mi mancava di Torey. Spero ne scriverà altri, nessuno come lei sa spiegare meglio il lavoro sociale, ho bisogno di chi mette in parole il mio lavoro, gli dia voce ed emozioni. Dopo anni di esperienza, continuo ad avere un mondo da imparare da Torey, anche se ne leggessi 100 non smetterei mai di imparare.
April 23, 2022
Time taken to read - < 1 day
Pages - 205
Publisher - Bluebird
Source - Bought
Blurb from Goodreads
From Torey Hayden, the number one Sunday Times bestselling author of One Child comes The Invisible Girl, a deeply moving true account of a young teen with a troubling obsession and an extraordinary educational psychologist's sympathy and determination to help.
Eloise is a vibrant and charming young teen with a deeply caring nature, but she also struggles with a worrying delusion. She’s been moved from home to home, and her social workers have difficulty dealing with her habit of running away. After experiencing violence, neglect and sexual abuse from people she should have been able to trust, Eloise has developed complex behavioural needs. She struggles to separate fact from fiction, leading to confusion for the social workers trying to help her.
After Torey learns of Eloise's background she hopes that some gentle care and attention can help Eloise gain some sense of security in her life. Can Torey and the other social workers provide the loving attention that has so far been missing in Eloise's life, or will she run away from them too?
My Review
I have read a fair few on Hayden's books, if you haven't they are not for the faint hearted. They are true stories about some of the children she has helped over the course of her career. We usually meet the child through her telling of how they came to her. This is the story of Eloise who shows up uninvited into Torey's life. Torey finds out Eloise has some deep issues and gets the green light to help/work with her.
These books are quite often traumatic, we find out the abuse and trauma of the kid or kids Torey is to help. Eloise story is pretty tragic and shows how abuse and neglect has such a lasting impact even after they get the child out or away from what happened.
The techniques and approaches I think are so interesting, Hayden is clearly a remarkable human being and how she interacts with and has encounters with them are something that stays with you long after you put the book down.
The kids often have some horrific behaviours because of what they sustained/endured, it is not easy reading but not overly graphic compared to some of the books. Poor Eloise, you feel heart sorry for these kids who are so failed by those suppose to love and protect them. 4/5 for me this time, I have read a few of Hayden's books and will read the others as we come across them.
Pages - 205
Publisher - Bluebird
Source - Bought
Blurb from Goodreads
From Torey Hayden, the number one Sunday Times bestselling author of One Child comes The Invisible Girl, a deeply moving true account of a young teen with a troubling obsession and an extraordinary educational psychologist's sympathy and determination to help.
Eloise is a vibrant and charming young teen with a deeply caring nature, but she also struggles with a worrying delusion. She’s been moved from home to home, and her social workers have difficulty dealing with her habit of running away. After experiencing violence, neglect and sexual abuse from people she should have been able to trust, Eloise has developed complex behavioural needs. She struggles to separate fact from fiction, leading to confusion for the social workers trying to help her.
After Torey learns of Eloise's background she hopes that some gentle care and attention can help Eloise gain some sense of security in her life. Can Torey and the other social workers provide the loving attention that has so far been missing in Eloise's life, or will she run away from them too?
My Review
I have read a fair few on Hayden's books, if you haven't they are not for the faint hearted. They are true stories about some of the children she has helped over the course of her career. We usually meet the child through her telling of how they came to her. This is the story of Eloise who shows up uninvited into Torey's life. Torey finds out Eloise has some deep issues and gets the green light to help/work with her.
These books are quite often traumatic, we find out the abuse and trauma of the kid or kids Torey is to help. Eloise story is pretty tragic and shows how abuse and neglect has such a lasting impact even after they get the child out or away from what happened.
The techniques and approaches I think are so interesting, Hayden is clearly a remarkable human being and how she interacts with and has encounters with them are something that stays with you long after you put the book down.
The kids often have some horrific behaviours because of what they sustained/endured, it is not easy reading but not overly graphic compared to some of the books. Poor Eloise, you feel heart sorry for these kids who are so failed by those suppose to love and protect them. 4/5 for me this time, I have read a few of Hayden's books and will read the others as we come across them.
March 3, 2022
Teininä lukemani Tiikerin lapsi kosketti syvästi. Olen sen jälkeen lukenut kaikki Torey Haydenin kirjat. Voi olla, että lukumieltymykseni ovat vuosien varrella muuttuneet, sillä Näkymätön tyttö ei tehnyt erityistä vaikutusta. Haydenin kerronta ei vain mitenkään tavoita enää entisen kaltaista intensiteettiä. Kiintymyssuhteisiin liittyvistä traumoista on kirjoitettu paljon, eikä tällä teoksella ole mielestäni asiasta mitään uutta kerrottavaa. Eloisen tarina on toki sinänsä hieno tarina selviytymisestä ja aikuisen tuen tärkeydestä haavoitetun lapsen toipumisprosessissa. Päädyin kuitenkin vain kahteen tähteen, koska kerronta alkoi suorastaan ärsyttää. Tilanteet ja samat kuluneet fraasit toistuvat samankaltaisina luvusta toiseen. Väkisin tulee mieleen, että jos tämä olisi ollut ensimmäinen lukemani Hayden, olisi jäänyt samalla viimeiseksi. Ihanaa, että pääsin nauttimaan tuotannon alkupäästä, jossa lasten tarinat heräävät kunnolla eloon. Kokonaisuutta häiritsee myös äänikirjan lukija, jolla on tapana tauottaa virkkeitä omituisesti.
April 6, 2022
Torey Haydenin uusin omakohtainen teos Näkymätön tyttö kertoi murrosikäisestä Eloisesta, joka oli kokenut runsaasti ikäviä juttuja elämänsä aikana. Eloise oli kuullut Toreysta ja pyysi häneltä apua. Tästä alkoi ehkä yksi vaikeimmista auttamispoluista Toreyn työelämässä, jossa hän oli auttanut lukemattomia lapsia.
14-vuotias Eloise siis katosi kesken juttelun Toreyn luona. Kävi ilmi, että hän oli kadonnut sijaiskodistaan useita päiviä aikaisemmin. Tietysti Torey huolestui kovasti, sillä hän oli huomannut tytön itsetuhoisuuden. Tytöllä oli ollut ongelmakäyttäytymistä ja useita eri sijaiskoteja ja terapiakuntoutusta. Vanhemmilla oli aina ollut päihdeongelmia ja vankilatuomioita. Eloisen kasvatusympäristö oli ollut surkea ja aikuiset olivat kohdelleet häntä kurjasti. Hän oli kehittänyt turvakseen mielikuvitushenkilön, Olivian.
Torey Haydenin Näkymätön tyttö antoi äänen nuorelle tytölle, jota oli aina kohdeltu kurjasti.
14-vuotias Eloise siis katosi kesken juttelun Toreyn luona. Kävi ilmi, että hän oli kadonnut sijaiskodistaan useita päiviä aikaisemmin. Tietysti Torey huolestui kovasti, sillä hän oli huomannut tytön itsetuhoisuuden. Tytöllä oli ollut ongelmakäyttäytymistä ja useita eri sijaiskoteja ja terapiakuntoutusta. Vanhemmilla oli aina ollut päihdeongelmia ja vankilatuomioita. Eloisen kasvatusympäristö oli ollut surkea ja aikuiset olivat kohdelleet häntä kurjasti. Hän oli kehittänyt turvakseen mielikuvitushenkilön, Olivian.
Torey Haydenin Näkymätön tyttö antoi äänen nuorelle tytölle, jota oli aina kohdeltu kurjasti.
December 27, 2022
Ei mikään paras Haydenin kirjoista, mutta kuitenkin lukemisen arvoinen. Aika moni muukin ehdotti aloittamaan varhaisemmista kirjoista, jos kiinnostaa lukea Torey Haydenin kirjoja.
Mä olen lukenut kaikki suomennetut. En tiedä, mielenkiinnolla tapaisin lasten kanssa työskenteleviä ja mielelläni itsekin vielä joskus työskentelisin, ainakin nuorten kanssa. Tässä kirjassa Hayden ottaa ongelmaisen teinitytön mukaansa lasten ryhmään apuohjaajaksi, mikä on toki hieman kyseenalaista. No, toki Haydenkin on vain ihminen ja näistäkin tapahtumista on aikaa. Mielenkiintoista oli mielikuvismaailman esille tuominen ja sen vaikutus osittain suojella mieltä. Mielenkiintoista oli lopussa se, miten Eloise itse toi ilmi, mitkä hänen puheessa olivat valhetta ja mitkä ei ja mistä se kaikki johtui: häpeästä. Varmasti toki monesta muustakin asiasta.
Toki resursseja pitäisi ylipäätään olla enemmän, että ihmiset saisivat ansaitsemansa avun.
Mä olen lukenut kaikki suomennetut. En tiedä, mielenkiinnolla tapaisin lasten kanssa työskenteleviä ja mielelläni itsekin vielä joskus työskentelisin, ainakin nuorten kanssa. Tässä kirjassa Hayden ottaa ongelmaisen teinitytön mukaansa lasten ryhmään apuohjaajaksi, mikä on toki hieman kyseenalaista. No, toki Haydenkin on vain ihminen ja näistäkin tapahtumista on aikaa. Mielenkiintoista oli mielikuvismaailman esille tuominen ja sen vaikutus osittain suojella mieltä. Mielenkiintoista oli lopussa se, miten Eloise itse toi ilmi, mitkä hänen puheessa olivat valhetta ja mitkä ei ja mistä se kaikki johtui: häpeästä. Varmasti toki monesta muustakin asiasta.
Toki resursseja pitäisi ylipäätään olla enemmän, että ihmiset saisivat ansaitsemansa avun.
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January 25, 2024
The Invisible Girl by Torey Hayden
This is the first book I have read by Torey Hayden. My niece suggested this author as she has read several of her other books. We are both foster parents. So, this book struck a chord in regards to childhood trauma and the behavior that often results.
I understand that this book is based on a true story. I am sorry for what Eloise went through in her life, but was glad to know she came out of it on the other end a good person. A lot of this book had a clinical feeling to it for me, but was necessary, I think, to ensure the reader had an understanding of the trials Eloise endured. Millions of kids are lost in the system each year. You hope you can connect to one and leave a lasting impression that somehow stays with them in their life.
Overall, I would recommend this book. However, I would caution that there could be triggers for some people.
This is the first book I have read by Torey Hayden. My niece suggested this author as she has read several of her other books. We are both foster parents. So, this book struck a chord in regards to childhood trauma and the behavior that often results.
I understand that this book is based on a true story. I am sorry for what Eloise went through in her life, but was glad to know she came out of it on the other end a good person. A lot of this book had a clinical feeling to it for me, but was necessary, I think, to ensure the reader had an understanding of the trials Eloise endured. Millions of kids are lost in the system each year. You hope you can connect to one and leave a lasting impression that somehow stays with them in their life.
Overall, I would recommend this book. However, I would caution that there could be triggers for some people.
December 27, 2023
Vuosien jälkeen palasin Torey Haydenin kirjan ääreen kun huomasin häneltä tulleen uuden kirjan muutama vuosi sitten. Ja onneksi palasin.
Kirja toi mieleeni ajat kun ensikerran tutustuin hänen tuotantoonsa. Tuolloin vielä haaveilin psykologin ammatista ja nämä kirjat olivat jonkinlainen portti maailmaan mikä kiehtoi.
Nyt jo ammattilaisena uudessa kirjassa oli jotain tuttua vanhaa, mutta samalla itse pystyi arvioimaan tapahtumia ammattilaisen näkövinkkelistä.
Hayden on hyvä kirjoittaja ja kirjassa hän paljastaakin mistä hän kykynsä ammentaa. Juoni piti otteessaan ja lukutahtini kiihtyi loppua myöden.
Erityisen iloinen olin lopusta ja siitä kuin jälleen kerran sain kokea viimeisen sivun nostatuksen, joka nosti kirjan neljästä tähdestä viiteen.
En paljasti sitä tässä, mutta henkilökohtaisella tasolla tämä oli minulle kertomus siitä, miksi Rogers oli jälleen kerran oikeassa.
Kirja toi mieleeni ajat kun ensikerran tutustuin hänen tuotantoonsa. Tuolloin vielä haaveilin psykologin ammatista ja nämä kirjat olivat jonkinlainen portti maailmaan mikä kiehtoi.
Nyt jo ammattilaisena uudessa kirjassa oli jotain tuttua vanhaa, mutta samalla itse pystyi arvioimaan tapahtumia ammattilaisen näkövinkkelistä.
Hayden on hyvä kirjoittaja ja kirjassa hän paljastaakin mistä hän kykynsä ammentaa. Juoni piti otteessaan ja lukutahtini kiihtyi loppua myöden.
Erityisen iloinen olin lopusta ja siitä kuin jälleen kerran sain kokea viimeisen sivun nostatuksen, joka nosti kirjan neljästä tähdestä viiteen.
En paljasti sitä tässä, mutta henkilökohtaisella tasolla tämä oli minulle kertomus siitä, miksi Rogers oli jälleen kerran oikeassa.
March 22, 2024
This might be my favourite Hayden's book.
I think what makes this book my favourite is the fact I greatly relate to Eloise and this book made me feel understood. I am really thankful for that. Living with messy mental health is often exhausting and seeing a professional genuinely care for their patient was refreshing and it did help me sort some things out. :)
Hayden is a wonderful storyteller and sounds like genuinely caring being so it was no surprise to me that this book was great too. She also makes questionable choices at times that make me cringe, a lot. I can't blame the book for that because that's how it happened... But god did some parts confuse me...
Overall I am really glad I read this book even though some parts were tough to read.
I think what makes this book my favourite is the fact I greatly relate to Eloise and this book made me feel understood. I am really thankful for that. Living with messy mental health is often exhausting and seeing a professional genuinely care for their patient was refreshing and it did help me sort some things out. :)
Hayden is a wonderful storyteller and sounds like genuinely caring being so it was no surprise to me that this book was great too. She also makes questionable choices at times that make me cringe, a lot. I can't blame the book for that because that's how it happened... But god did some parts confuse me...
Overall I am really glad I read this book even though some parts were tough to read.
March 29, 2023
Amo molto questa autrice e i suoi racconti e ho amato anche questo dedicato alla difficile storia di Eloise.
L'ho letto velocemente per la voglia di scoprire, insieme alla Hayden, quale fosse la verità dietro le parole della ragazzina, ma ciò che ho apprezzato di più è stato come qui la psicologa infantile si sia messa in discussione, il suo timore di sbagliare anche dopo così tanti anni di esperienza e soprattutto l'umiltà di riconoscere di aver fatto anche passi falsi.
Lo consiglio come tutti i suoi libri.
L'ho letto velocemente per la voglia di scoprire, insieme alla Hayden, quale fosse la verità dietro le parole della ragazzina, ma ciò che ho apprezzato di più è stato come qui la psicologa infantile si sia messa in discussione, il suo timore di sbagliare anche dopo così tanti anni di esperienza e soprattutto l'umiltà di riconoscere di aver fatto anche passi falsi.
Lo consiglio come tutti i suoi libri.
August 15, 2021
Another non fiction look into have services can be applied and are helpful or not so in our world.
Torey is in Wales when she is sort out by Eloise. She wants her help but doesn’t know how or why.
Torey collects together what she knows and talks possibilities through with trusted friends/ health care professionals as to what may work when other things don’t. I really enjoy reading her work I find it inspirational.
Torey is in Wales when she is sort out by Eloise. She wants her help but doesn’t know how or why.
Torey collects together what she knows and talks possibilities through with trusted friends/ health care professionals as to what may work when other things don’t. I really enjoy reading her work I find it inspirational.
September 15, 2021
I enjoy Torey Hayden's writing and was delighted to find a new one from her. It is a wonderful look at her work and she really helps us to see very fully the inner lives of the children she works with. I was especially grateful with this one to have an epilogue that let us know what happened to this child after she moved away from Ms Hayden's area. I found it fascinating to see how social services operate in another country. Doesn't seem like anyone has found a perfect solution.
February 21, 2022
Yhteenkään Haydeniin en ole pettynyt, eikä tämäkään tehnyt poikkeusta. Haydenin tapa kirjoittaa lapset eläviksi on todella koskettava, ja vaikka näissä toistuu auttamisteema, hän ei korota itseään mihinkään pyhimysasemaan vaan on nöyrä vaikeuksien edessä ja mokaa myös avoimesti. Tässä kirjassa myös ilahduttava ”pitkä aikavälin seuranta”. En vieläkään tiedä, kuinka tarkasti nämä tarinat ovat totta, mutta mielenkiinto toki syntyy juuri siitä ajatuksesta, että näin joskus tapahtui.
March 3, 2022
Torey Haydenin teokset kulkevat samalla kaavalla, hylätty ja hyljeksitty, huonosti kohdeltu ja huonosti käyttäytyvä lapsi, jonka luottamuksen kirjailija hiljalleen ja vaivaa nähden saavuttaa. Takapakeiltakaan ei vältytä, mutta lopulta kaikki päättyy hyvin. Sanoma on kuitenkin aina hyvä: huono käytös ei tee lapsesta pahaa, vaan käyttäytymisongelmien taustalta löytyy aina syynsä, useimmiten huonostikäyttäytyneitä aikuisia ja/tai hylkäämiskokemuksia.
June 10, 2022
Olen lukenut koko lapsuuteni Haydenin kirjoja. Nyt on ollut pitkän pitkä tauko kunnes tartuin tähän.
Tästä huokui myös väsymys järjestelmään ja sen joustamattomuuteen. Sekä lannistuminen sen edessä, että apua tarvitsevia olisi valtavasti, mutta resursseja ei ole. Eloise tarvitsisi yksilöterapiaa, muttei sitä saa.
Kirja eteni jouhevasti eteenpäin. Samanaikaisesti se tuntui loppuvan ennen aikojaan, jäävän vähän tyngäksi.
Tästä huokui myös väsymys järjestelmään ja sen joustamattomuuteen. Sekä lannistuminen sen edessä, että apua tarvitsevia olisi valtavasti, mutta resursseja ei ole. Eloise tarvitsisi yksilöterapiaa, muttei sitä saa.
Kirja eteni jouhevasti eteenpäin. Samanaikaisesti se tuntui loppuvan ennen aikojaan, jäävän vähän tyngäksi.
November 2, 2022
Mi è piaciuto molto: l'ho divorato in poco più di un giorno.
Come insegnante di scuola dell'infanzia e primaria ho apprezzato ogni suo libro che trattasse storie vere.
Di questo mi è piaciuto il fatto che Eloise fosse un'adolescente, mostrando il rapporto instaurato da Torey Hayden con una fascia d'età diversa da quella a cui ci aveva abituati.
Questo libro è stato il piacevole e inaspettato ritorno di una delle mie scrittrici preferite.
Come insegnante di scuola dell'infanzia e primaria ho apprezzato ogni suo libro che trattasse storie vere.
Di questo mi è piaciuto il fatto che Eloise fosse un'adolescente, mostrando il rapporto instaurato da Torey Hayden con una fascia d'età diversa da quella a cui ci aveva abituati.
Questo libro è stato il piacevole e inaspettato ritorno di una delle mie scrittrici preferite.
August 9, 2021
I've been waiting years for this book
I'm stunned that Torey Hayden is writing again! I have loved every one of her books and finally, here's another beautiful book from her! I always learn so much from her about how to be an empathetic human being, though it's through her stories, not outright instruction, that I learn from her books.
If you haven't read her books, read them!
I'm stunned that Torey Hayden is writing again! I have loved every one of her books and finally, here's another beautiful book from her! I always learn so much from her about how to be an empathetic human being, though it's through her stories, not outright instruction, that I learn from her books.
If you haven't read her books, read them!
May 24, 2022
Lapsen tarina on mielenkiintoinen, kuten Haydenin kirjoissa yleensäkin. Jotenkin tämä kirja jäi kuitenkin pliisuksi. Tapahtumat ja tarina junnasi jotenkin paikallaan, mikä on varmasti toisinaan vain realismia terapiassa, mutta kirjassa huono asia. Olisin mieluummin lukenut tytön tarinan lyhyempänä novellina, johon asioiden etenemisen olisi saanut tiiviimmin samalla välttäen yksitoikkoisuutta.
February 6, 2023
Always reading pleasure from Torey Hayden
Her true stories are serious, but nevertheless joyful for the most part by the end of the book. It’s been wonderful following her for many years in her experiences with children. When I new book comes out, I snatch it up immediately, knowing it will be a rewarding read.
Her true stories are serious, but nevertheless joyful for the most part by the end of the book. It’s been wonderful following her for many years in her experiences with children. When I new book comes out, I snatch it up immediately, knowing it will be a rewarding read.
May 8, 2024
This seemed like a pretty realistic description of working with a traumatised teen, but I must say the Welsh child welfare system sounds pretty horrible, I got the sense this is set in the early 2000 so hopefully things have changed for the better since. The author is a great story teller especially considering the heavy topic. I'm definitely going to read more of her books after this one.
December 6, 2021
Another amazing story from Torrey Hayden
This was classic Torey Hayden. Her amazing way with troubled children, waiting with them and just being there in their silence and hurt, is inspiring. I highly recommend this and all of her books.
This was classic Torey Hayden. Her amazing way with troubled children, waiting with them and just being there in their silence and hurt, is inspiring. I highly recommend this and all of her books.
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